Comments on: sometimes the sunshine feels like a mother’s love

By: O.V.E.R. — I.T. « & that’s the way life goes

O.V.E.R. — I.T. « & that’s the way life goes — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 14:53:31 +0000

[...] just indifferent. For those of you that read my posts about my ‘grams’ (here and here) this is the [...]

By: sleepyjane

sleepyjane — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 07:38:25 +0000

Wow, that must be a hard thing to do but I know that you have good reason. I’m sorry that you didn’t get a grandma you deserved though. {{hug}}

I remember that in MIB and I agree, if it rains too long I get so down in the dumps!

By: Tink

Tink — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 22:26:46 +0000

I had to cut my mum out of my life for a while – one of the hardest things I’ve had to do. But now that she’s sorted herself out we’re closer than ever. And the reason we’re closer now is that I know I have the strength to be independent and that if I needed to (to protect myself) I could do it again.

It might not be a happy ever after with your grandma but you’ve made a brave move and you should be proud of yourself.

I hope it does work out for the best, which ever way that may be

By: luvgreen

luvgreen — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 02:58:36 +0000

hi ria, maybe you should give her another chance and fix things between the two of you, maybe she has good reasons too, try to open your heart.

By: Tough Girl 101

Tough Girl 101 — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 01:11:25 +0000

I’m really sorry ria, but sometimes you have to cut your losses, right? it’s a hard decision, but it does sound like the mature one. I’m really surprised that you have the courage to put it out publicly on your blog. That’s incredibly brave of you

By: Melissa

Melissa — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 00:51:40 +0000

I think what you feel about your grandma is the same way I feel about my father. I completely understand you and admire you for letting yourself being so vulnerable in front of friends and strangers. I think it’s best to know that we’re cutting people out of our lives because we want to than feeling that they’re doing that to us.

Happy birthday to your mom, I’m sure she’s looking over you and is very proud for being so brave

By: emmaelizabeth

emmaelizabeth — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 22:30:58 +0000

I kinda wrote my grandma out of my life… spent alot of years as a kid wondering why she was never as proud of me and my brother as she was of my 2 other cousins. Somewhere I just gave up I guess. I know she loved us and was proud- she just never showed it and I grew tired of wanting to see her excited about what we were accomplishing. She died about 3 years ago now. I never went to the funeral, instead I flew to FL for springbreak. I still have mixed feelings about it. So- I guess I’m trying to say, I wrote my grams out of my life for a really dumb reason. I dont know the story with your grams, but I hope you have a good reason. Because I’ll never have closure with my decision and sometimes I wish I would’ve given her one more try.

And I totally agree about the weather and moods. It’s crappy snowy here in MN right now and I’m sooo not motivated for anything today.

Emma,
it really is hard to make the decision to cut someone out. thanks for sharing your story. my grams cut me out of her life when she got in a fight with my mom and got remarried when i was 9. she didn’t come back in until after my mom decided to fix things with her when i was 17. i’ve tried to establish a relationship with her and sometimes its ok but when i really ever need her she’s never there. she’s too self-absorbed.

i’m sorry it’s snowy already in MN!!!