& that’s the way life goes

well, in the first place, there must something you fell in love about that person. and later, you discover something you don’t like about him. but nobody’s perfect, and every person is a package of good and bad thrown together. if the good overcomes the bad, then i think he’s worth loving for. when in doubt, just remember what brought you together the first time.

just my two-cents!

that’s a tough question. but i agree- no one is perfect. therefore how can anyone ever really love all of someone? you can’t. and that’s ok. you love them for reasons you want to love them. does that make sense? love is hard and i’ve loved a guy or two in my time who ended up being losers, but that in itself didn’t make me love them any less at the time. sounds like you do love this guy if you’re questioning it to begin with.

like odette said- that’s my two cents

Iv’e come to realise that all people are different and in essence you cannot change that person. They can make a few shifts in they way they approach things and they way they handle things but in the end they are who they are - to the core.
So the best is to love someone enough to accept the flaws. No one can be exactly what you want - as much as I’d love to think that what happens in books and movies between two people are true - it’s not. It’s not all roses and sunshine and cupcakes and all consuming passion.

You may not really like the person you love at some point in your life but you have to decide if you love them enough to stick with it and make it work.

Relationships are very, VERY hard and it ISN’T always easy - it’s not supposed to be.

I think part of my definition of love is accepting the person for who they are. And that means accepting all of them, their faults, their mistakes, their quirks, and their amazing attributes. It’s a tough question because I think undoubtedly that you will never love everything about another person. I think there will be parts of them that will annoy you, or that you will dislike about them. But accepting them, those flaws and all, is the only way you can truly love someone.

But that’s just me. Ask me on another day, and I may have a compeltely different answer!

Thank you all for your thoughtful comments. It really means a lot to me. You guys are AWESOME

loving someone means loving with all your heart no ifs no buts

No, I don’t think so. If you can’t accept them for who they are, it makes it difficult to trust them, forgive them and negotiate with them, which are the building blocks to a good relationship.

But being in a relationship shouldn’t mean that you compromise who you are, either.

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